Where clarity gives you the foresight to see the final destination,
consistency gives you the wherewithal to make the trip.
Hello again Legacy Leaders,
Hope you’ve had a great week thus far. The last time we were together I talked a bit about how to stay focused on your goals…period. I mentioned that we need to work smarter, not harder, by being clear and consistent.
What I did not discuss, however, was how to get clear and how to be consistent. So that’s where I’ll pick up today. In order to speak about gaining clarity in our choices, I must first speak a bit about what drives many of us – those of us reading this anyway – when making these choices: our legacies.
When building a legacy, we so often think about tomorrow that we put little focus on today. We don’t take the time to really understand our choices or enjoy them. It isn’t uncommon for legacy builders to get so inundated with the task of creating a life for those we love, that we forget to live.
This doesn’t happen (as often) when you’re clear.
Clarity affords you the opportunity to not only leverage opportunities that bless your future and the future of your loved ones, but to also enjoy the present. When done right, as you become accustomed to living in space of clarity, yesterday’s fulfilling choices manifest into today’s fulfilling outcomes, which in turn allow you to make fulfilling choices today that will become the fulfilling outcomes of tomorrow.
And just how do you get to such a state of clarity? It sounds silly, but “know thy self.”
I’m not talking about new age, psycho-phenomenal, humanistic way. What I’m talking about comes from a deep, spiritual insight that can only come from connection with a greater being outside yourself. I’m talking about knowing who are you and why you’re here; not because you decided but because you realigned with the innate, God-given purpose you were put here for.
As Steven Pressfield said in his book, The War of Art, “We can’t be anything we want. We were put here for a reason and it’s our job to discover what that is and become it.” That is clarity baby!
You can’t achieve clarity if you’re always immersed in the busy-ness of life. Clarity comes with turning off the television, putting down the tablet, silencing the phones and doing nothing. Absolutely nothing.
If you have never taken the time to sit still and just be, I urge you to try it. I’m not talking hours or even a fifteen minute stretch. If you can get five minutes of alone time before the kids wake up or after they’ve gone to bed, go for it. Maybe you and your spouse can take a moment to do this together or even apart but at the same time. Later, you can discuss what you each discovered – or not. It’s up to you. The important thing is just to do it. Once you start, you’d be amazed at how much time you can find to continue.
You need clarity. We all need clarity. We all want to be useful contributors to society. There isn’t a personal alive who isn’t fighting to be more. Even those who commit the most detestable and heinous of acts, when sat before a psychoanalyst worth their wright in salt, speak of some dream deferred that left them so hurt the only viable option seemed to be hurting others.
This is why we must be clear; because hurt people hurt people. If we want our children to grow up to be whole, happy, healthy adults we must show them what that looks like. We must take the time to be whole, happy and healthy. If we want them to use our lives as a springboard and stepping stone for greatness, we must get past the first rung.
That requires clarity.
When you know who are you and what you are made for, you understand what works for you and what doesn’t. When you are clear about your purpose it will deter you from expending your energies on things that are not meant for you, no matter how superb you might be at performing them. You’ll steer clear of what Gay Hendricks would call your Zone of Excellence, and start operating in your sweet spot, your place of purpose.
Clarity breeds consistency. Where clarity gives you the foresight to see the final destination, consistency gives you the wherewithal to make the trip. Once you know where you want to go, you make up your mind to get there. If you’re still struggling with clarity, chances are you still haven’t gotten clear.
When you’re clear, you prioritize your actions. You do those things that give you the most return for your investment – whether that investment is time, energy or money. You’re careful to stay committed to achieving the invisible, not-yet-manifested goal regardless of how things may look right now. This is consistency. And though you can have clarity without consistency, you can’t have consistency without clarity.
So, now that I’ve belabored the importance of getting clear, how to do it and all its benefits, just how exactly do we create consistency? I’m glad you asked. I’ll talk more about that next time in Clarity and Consistency – Part 2.
Of course, I’d love to hear from you before then. Where are you on your journey? Been at this a while? Just starting out? Let me know in the comments.
Until soon Legacy Leaders,